Inspired by a talk with
If you had the chance to have a chat with the younger version of yourself, what would you tell them? Do you think your conversation would be more casual, like meeting up with an old friend? Or more assertive, like warning and demanding. We’ve all had those moments of, ‘if I knew then what I know now’ so naturally if we got to talk to a younger version of ourselves, we’d want to stir them in a better direction; perhaps one that avoids our mistakes of the past.
What if you could do so? And not by using some sort of magical time-turner but in actuality.
Well…if you are a parent, chances are you already do. Through parenting, most people are introduced to their inner-child; generally speaking, parents bare a part of themselves into their offspring. But even if you don’t have children, you still are parenting in a sense…because deep down, our inner child is still with us. And within that inner-child lies the depth of our character—who we are.
Take a moment and think back on your childhood days…
Who were you?
How did you feel?
What did you need?
Often when we dig this deep, we find not only fond memories but also pain. It’s easy to rejoice in the happy moments but harder to recognize the more difficult ones. If we are honest with ourselves, we can acknowledge that a direct root of our present trials and troubles stem from a malnourished part of our inner-child. And gone un-fed, this type of starvation becomes fatal…creating fragile children and ultimately broken adults.
As a child, when we don’t get what we want we cry and act out; and as an adult, we do the same. However, the consequences of doing so carry more weight. What’s once seen as cute and kid-like behavior becomes toxic and spiritually-infectious.
But what do we do?
The key is to first recognize those traits and feelings. A gravely ill person does not heal without first recognizing the sickness and then seeking help. In the same way, use information learned in a way that helps you heal and parent your inner child.
Tell him/her what you needed to hear back when you were a kid. Uproot suppressed childhood feelings. Try writing yourself a letter—a ‘dear younger me’; ask yourself- ‘how can the you of today, nurture your inner-child of yesterday’? Offer your younger self the words of encouragement you always needed.
Part of growing and learning is realizing no one was handed a royal flush. YOU are responsible for your happiness. So we must be kind to ourselves, for then we can produce kindness in the world.